There’s perhaps no stronger reminder—both for the Princess of Wales and for anyone recovering from cancer—of the importance of pacing oneself during recovery.

Back in January, when Kate shared that she was in remission following six months of preventative chemotherapy, she expressed “relief” but made it clear that her focus remained on healing.

She said at the time, “As anyone who has experienced a cancer diagnosis will know, it takes time to adjust to a new normal. I am however looking forward to a fulfilling year ahead.” Her diagnosis last February led her to take an extended step back from public engagements to prioritize her health.

Gradual Return to Public Duties

After Kensington Palace announced in September that she had completed her treatment, they emphasized that her return to official duties would be gradual and carefully managed.

Although there have been signs of a more consistent return to public life lately, it hasn’t been without its challenges. In the span of a single week, the Princess carried out three significant appearances: the grand opening of the new V&A museum in east London, Trooping the Colour in London to celebrate the King’s official birthday, and Garter Day in Windsor—all during a scorching heatwave.

Skipping Royal Ascot to Prioritize Wellbeing

Perhaps unsurprisingly, it may have all become too demanding. Kensington Palace confirmed today that while Kate was disappointed to miss Royal Ascot—a lighter, celebratory event often enjoyed by the royals—she needed to strike the right balance as she continues her reentry into public life.

While many people recovering from serious illnesses juggle work and family without the flexibility or resources available to a royal, it’s still important to remember that this is no typical lifestyle. Queen Elizabeth II famously served the public until almost her final days, and other senior royals have remained active well into their 70s and 80s.

Not Yet Ready for a Full-Time Return

Setting aside the factors of status and circumstance, it seems the Princess of Wales may not yet be ready to resume a full-time role within the royal household.

By contrast, King Charles, despite being 76 and still undergoing weekly cancer treatment, has taken on an intense schedule of appearances. According to those close to him, he’s determined to “make up for lost time.”

At 43, Kate is in a different stage of life. As a mother to three young children—including seven-year-old Prince Louis—she’s been clear that her priority, for now, is both her family and her recovery.

Miscommunication and a Clear Need for Rest

There was some confusion surrounding her expected appearance at Royal Ascot. She was listed in the official programme, and event organizers confirmed her attendance just 20 minutes before the Palace revealed she would not be going. While awkward, the situation points to a deeper need for careful communication—and perhaps even more importantly, to allow the Princess to honor what her body and mind are telling her.

Ultimately, if she is given the space to recover fully on her own terms, everyone—from her family and the royal institution to the many charities and causes she supports—will benefit in the long run.